I was planning to start going to the gym tomorrow - was gonna get up early and hit the gym around 6am. I usually spent 60-90 minutes there on lifting days.

Oh, but the kids are starting school and because the bus schedules are wrong I've gotta drop my daughter off at a bus stop down the street at 6:45 (there's a stop closer, but we don't know where it is, so to be safe)

Sure I could go after I drop her off - it's really no big deal, right? But some part of my brain is throwing a screaming tantrum that the schedule I was looking forward to is fucked up.

This happens all the time - something throws a wrench in the works and I'm completely messed up. WTF is up with that? Why can't I just roll with it?

Because you're a bitchy control freak.

This is probably why my life is the way it is. I don't make such compromises.

If you want a family, wife, six figure job, you give that up.

Sometimes you have to do what they tell you to do.

I don't have that problem. I sometimes don't show up for work. I don't have kids. My "wife" ignores me when I'm having a nervous breakdown.

It's called life.

+1 bitchy control freak.


you have trouble seeing your own mistakes as well...have I mentioned that?

"Because you're a bitchy control freak"

Well, yeah. Is that a clinical term tho? :)

Seriously, the good part is that I don't have a problem dropping her off (or helping with homework, or mowing the lawn or whatever) - it's the rest of my day that gets shot. If I hyperfocus I can still rescue it - get to the gym after I drop her off, but I wish I could just automatically compensate.

Aspergery?


I like order.

I have the same problem. If I make plans, and something comes up that interferes with those plans, I really freak out internally.

Another issue is that I have a hard time saying no to people. So if I make plans, and someone "needs" me to do something else during those plans, I ditch my own plans. This leaves me angry at myself and angry at the other person.

If I have no plans, I could care less.

Thus, to avoid internal turmoil, I now never make plans. I'm not sure this strategy is working out too well, long term.

If you can't do a workout in 20 minutes you aint tryin. Why so long?

20 minutes is the absolute minimum for cardio alone.

Now you make me want to go cycling.

Go in the afternoon?

>> This happens all the time - something throws a wrench in the works and I'm completely messed up. WTF is up with that? Why can't I just roll with it? <<

'cause you're human.

My mother is the same way, to the point that she expects the world to bend to her schedule.  [insert a billion irritating anecdotes here].  I'm better than she is; something comes up I spend the next X minutes frantically re-doing my schedule in my head, but then I can follow the new schedule.  It is harder, though, because the longer I have a schedule in my head the more I'm likely to follow through out of duty, but at least I am capable of changing plans without it ruining my day.