What is this?
I was planning to start going to the gym tomorrow - was gonna get up early and hit the gym around 6am. I usually spent 60-90 minutes there on lifting days.
Oh, but the kids are starting school and because the bus schedules are wrong I've gotta drop my daughter off at a bus stop down the street at 6:45 (there's a stop closer, but we don't know where it is, so to be safe)
Sure I could go after I drop her off - it's really no big deal, right? But some part of my brain is throwing a screaming tantrum that the schedule I was looking forward to is fucked up.
This happens all the time - something throws a wrench in the works and I'm completely messed up. WTF is up with that? Why can't I just roll with it?
September 4th, 2006 9:26pm
Because you're a bitchy control freak.
September 4th, 2006 9:29pm
This is probably why my life is the way it is. I don't make such compromises.
If you want a family, wife, six figure job, you give that up.
Sometimes you have to do what they tell you to do.
I don't have that problem. I sometimes don't show up for work. I don't have kids. My "wife" ignores me when I'm having a nervous breakdown.
It's called life.
+1 bitchy control freak.
you have trouble seeing your own mistakes as well...have I mentioned that?
September 4th, 2006 9:32pm
"Because you're a bitchy control freak"
Well, yeah. Is that a clinical term tho? :)
Seriously, the good part is that I don't have a problem dropping her off (or helping with homework, or mowing the lawn or whatever) - it's the rest of my day that gets shot. If I hyperfocus I can still rescue it - get to the gym after I drop her off, but I wish I could just automatically compensate.
September 4th, 2006 9:33pm
I like order.
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September 4th, 2006 9:40pm
I have the same problem. If I make plans, and something comes up that interferes with those plans, I really freak out internally.
Another issue is that I have a hard time saying no to people. So if I make plans, and someone "needs" me to do something else during those plans, I ditch my own plans. This leaves me angry at myself and angry at the other person.
If I have no plans, I could care less.
Thus, to avoid internal turmoil, I now never make plans. I'm not sure this strategy is working out too well, long term.
September 4th, 2006 9:51pm
If you can't do a workout in 20 minutes you aint tryin. Why so long?
son of parnas
September 4th, 2006 11:53pm
20 minutes is the absolute minimum for cardio alone.
Now you make me want to go cycling.
o-o <-- bike
September 5th, 2006 12:08am
Go in the afternoon?
September 5th, 2006 4:18am
>> This happens all the time - something throws a wrench in the works and I'm completely messed up. WTF is up with that? Why can't I just roll with it? <<
'cause you're human.
September 5th, 2006 8:18am
My mother is the same way, to the point that she expects the world to bend to her schedule. [insert a billion irritating anecdotes here]. I'm better than she is; something comes up I spend the next X minutes frantically re-doing my schedule in my head, but then I can follow the new schedule. It is harder, though, because the longer I have a schedule in my head the more I'm likely to follow through out of duty, but at least I am capable of changing plans without it ruining my day.
the great purple
September 5th, 2006 1:00pm