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My god, my life is turning into a jerry springer episode

about 10 years ago, I started hanging out with two people (a guy and girl) from the place I worked. I sort of had a crush on the girl, but I never said anything because they were dating.  They eventually got married but the crush never wore off.  As we hung out over the years, I liked her more and more, but never acted on it. Then, one day while hanging out with the couple, she starts playing 'footsies' with me at the table.  the guy eventually left the table to take the dog outside, and she kissed me.  Now she wants to come over while he's at work to 'talk'.  Turns out she's had a crush on me all this time too, and liked me more and more as we hung out. 

what the fuck should I do?
Permalink confused 
September 11th, 2006 5:37pm
Run away.
Permalink Send private email Wayne (AHA) 
September 11th, 2006 5:38pm
Get nekkid and partay.
Permalink Send private email Mat Hall 
September 11th, 2006 5:39pm
Do her.
Permalink Funny Bünny 
September 11th, 2006 5:42pm
What would Jerry do?
Permalink son of parnas 
September 11th, 2006 5:49pm
Tell her that you are an open and honest person and you like her too. You have had many successful open marriage type relationships, but it all has to be done with her husband's awareness and consent, so she needs to talk to him before coming on to you any more.
Permalink John Smith 
September 11th, 2006 5:52pm
Why would he do something like that?!?!?!?
Permalink Funny Bünny 
September 11th, 2006 5:53pm
Perhaps she's actually after a bit of DP and her husband will be involved anyway?
Permalink Send private email Mat Hall 
September 11th, 2006 5:54pm
Troll.
Permalink SaveTheHubble 
September 11th, 2006 5:55pm
Maybe her husband wants to try some man secks with her consent?
Permalink Funny Bünny 
September 11th, 2006 5:56pm
yeah, I don't the husband/friend would consent to this.  I just went through a divorce about a year ago, and as I talked to him about it, he'd say stuff like "if my wife ever cheated on me, I'd get a divorce and burn the house down with all her crap in it" in one of those half joking/half serious ways.
Permalink confused 
September 11th, 2006 5:56pm
I hope you know jiu-jitsu.
Permalink Funny Bünny 
September 11th, 2006 5:57pm
leave the situation knowing that she'll want you forever.  the ego trip is worth any "conversation" you'll have.  go find yourself someone who's right in the head.

or...

have unprotected sex, and get her pregnant with your kid.  relish in the idea that you've spread your seed with minimal effort on your part.  repeat with further offspring with as many wives as possible.
Permalink Kenny 
September 11th, 2006 6:00pm
++ what Mat said (his first comment)

Then go seek advice from some one or some group that might give you serious suggestions.
Permalink Send private email Wärd 
September 11th, 2006 6:23pm
You're right.  It's easier to ask for forgiveness than it is to ask for permission.
Permalink confused 
September 11th, 2006 6:41pm
depends on how you value used beaver vs. being a douche.
Permalink just curious 
September 11th, 2006 7:57pm
> It's easier to ask for forgiveness than it is to ask for permission.

But it's a lot harder to be forgiven.
Permalink son of parnas 
September 11th, 2006 8:45pm
Nice zinger, SoP.

If you guys do it, don't use irth control. That way if you get her pregnant, he has to care of the kid. (I'm just looking out for the OP's best interests.)
Permalink Send private email just me 
September 11th, 2006 9:17pm
I suppose it depends on your personality. My rule of thumb is that unless the girl is some once in a lifetime opportunity (Scarlett Johannsen,Beyonce, Qi Shu) then I will pass.
Permalink world travler 
September 11th, 2006 9:29pm
birth control.
Permalink Send private email just me 
September 11th, 2006 9:31pm
"Why would he do something like that?"

He'll go for it because an 'open marriage' means he gets to fuck around too. I've been through this before. If you do it right you can make it work unless the guy is super religious or something.
Permalink John Smith 
September 12th, 2006 3:25am

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