1. I accept that I am under the control of a higher power (Muppet).

We Die Too Soon

http://www.the-scientist.com/article/home/52887/

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George Bernard Shaw commented on how ridiculous it is that just as we are reaching the age at which we begin to acquire some wisdom, our faculties start to deteriorate and our bodies let us down. So, when we should be applying our hard-won experience to solving the problems of human conflict, overpopulation, and the degradation of our planet, we spend a disproportionate amount of our remaining lifespan worrying about our failing health and memory.
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So true. But I wonder if people would continue to grow and change, or would they just fund a comfortable rut?
Permalink son of parnas 
March 31st, 2007 1:24am
Or perhaps they would not acquire wisdom until they were infirm.
Permalink Practical Economist 
March 31st, 2007 1:35am
Funding comfortable ruts is what we (try to) do.
Permalink Dirty old rutters 
March 31st, 2007 2:30am
That's only true if you believe that the years between youth and old age are spent doing meaningless busywork.
Permalink Send private email Blooregard Q. Kazoo 
March 31st, 2007 4:58am
Meaningless?
Permalink Randy Scouse Git 
March 31st, 2007 9:36am
Most people are in a rut by the time they're 30, so getting older doesn't matter much one way or the other.

There are always the few who continue to be open to new ideas well into old age, which would benefit the rest of us as well.
Permalink AMerrickanGirl 
March 31st, 2007 10:25am
Most old men spend their declining years wondering how to influence young women by acquiring yachts, sports cars or ranches in faraway places.
Permalink Bong Crosby 
March 31st, 2007 11:15am
"just as we are reaching the age at which we begin to acquire some wisdom, our faculties start to deteriorate and our bodies let us down."

I think this is regardless of how old we become. If our average age is 50, 100, 150 or 1500. I think this sentiment will be the same. It's just a realization that you have become to old to do the things you didn't do when you were young and had the opportunity to do them but let it pass.
Permalink Send private email Locutus of Borg 
March 31st, 2007 11:40am
There's something askew in someone who wants people to live longer and thinks overpopulation is a problem.
Permalink Send private email strawberry snowflake 
March 31st, 2007 11:42am
agreed but then again, do you want to die?
Permalink Send private email Locutus of Borg 
March 31st, 2007 11:44am
i agree with locutus' sentiments above. it's almost like there's a depreciation on wisdom tied to how far till death. So net present value of death 50 years before (at 5% depreciation) is 7% of its future value. 30 years before, it's 21%. A person within 10 years is at least 59% wise. Etc.

hey, lob, haven;t been using blah much. it's a hard community to crack.
Permalink Send private email strawberry snowflake 
March 31st, 2007 12:17pm
Seems to me that we don't get wise until death is imminent, anyway.

I have always found it miraculous how wise even young people seem to become when they suffer a terminal illness.

This is just one of the jokes life plays on us.
Permalink Send private email sharkfish 
March 31st, 2007 12:37pm
> "it's a hard community to crack."

It's not. All you have to do is participate and not be an asshole (at least not all of the time). Start a thread or two. Add something meaningful to a few others. Share something.
Permalink Send private email Locutus of Borg 
March 31st, 2007 12:51pm
sharkfish, that's amazing. What you say is true. Many people don't think at all till they are ill.

It also reminded me of the movie Ikiru. The movie is very good and it begins with him getting the news that his death is imminent.

The break you took has made you wiser is it :-)
Permalink Send private email Senthilnathan N.S. 
March 31st, 2007 1:27pm
> "it's a hard community to crack."

People don't put up walls if they want it easy to crack.
Permalink son of parnas 
March 31st, 2007 1:52pm
"The break you took has made you wiser is it :-)"

heh.  Probably not, but I'll take it.

I think I have allowed myself to become happy.  The results are completely amazing.
Permalink Send private email sharkfish 
March 31st, 2007 5:28pm
> I think I have allowed myself to become happy.

How were you stopping yourself from being happy? Were saying there's happiness, let me turn away?
Permalink son of parnas 
March 31st, 2007 5:54pm
> Share something.

I'm unescaping to New York. Is that something to blag about?
Permalink Send private email strawberry snowflake 
March 31st, 2007 6:51pm
I don't know, exactly, SoP.  If I had the formula, I'd sell it.

....rambling follows....you've been warned.....

I just stopped caring so much about things out of my control. I've accepted some things:

death
aging
my personal flaws

I've let go of career.  I just don't care.  One day I'll start a business. Or maybe I won't.  Maybe I'll spend my whole retirement fund on something frivolous.  I just don't fret about things so much.  By "fret" I mean actively worry--I'm always going to bitch about being bored or how people annoy me.

The other part of the picture is that everybody puts me down for my frivolity.  I've embraced that about myself, and I like it.  I don't care about people's opinions anymore.  I will dabble and get bored and move on; that is just who I am.  Will I ever finish something?  Who cares!

I'm no longer searching for "MY PURPOSE". 

I love it.  I am free.  I haven't been to work before 9:30AM in weeks, and the world isn't falling down upon me (deep down I always felt slightly guilty--but no more).

I clean up when I feel like it.  I play with my cats in the middle of the night.  I read gay literature, and I fantasize about cutting my hair short and being the boy I really am.  I smile at pretty ladies and they smile back.

I fretted about a bonus from my boss at the end of last year, and he gave me all these bullshit reasons about why I'm not so good blah blah skippy blah blah. I told him he was full of shit and laughed during our talk.  And then he turned around and gave it to me in January.

At that VERY MOMENT, I realized I had been digesting everyone else's CRAP all my life and really it is all just bullshit.  Decide what you want, demand it, and if you don't get it, it wasn't meant to be.  I've totally accepted that.

I no longer let other people determine my self-worth. 

Some pop-psych book would call it "letting go" or somesuch.  I dunno.  I just don't give a shit anymore.  Live in the moment.

Right now, I'm debating on whether to broil my chicken wings and which DVD to watch tonight.  I am not thinking any further ahead than that.

I think that the fact that the Dems took Congress really helped me deal.  People are slowly realizing they were wrong, and my little world view is becoming acceptable rather than that of a bunch of idiot rednecks whose values I cannot fathom.
Permalink Send private email sharkfish 
March 31st, 2007 9:26pm
That's frigging inspirational. Really is.
Permalink Send private email strawberry snowflake 
April 1st, 2007 12:08am
> Live in the moment.

I can never find the right moment.

And the whole not giving a shit approach means accepting whatever outcomes come out. I can't get the hang of that.
Permalink son of parnas 
April 1st, 2007 2:06am
> And the whole not giving a shit approach means accepting whatever outcomes come out. I can't get the hang of that.

I think the context sharkfish tries to mean is different.

SoP, do you think you can relate to it if it's like what this book says?

http://www.amazon.com/Deep-Survival-Who-Lives-Dies/dp/0393052761

The first review gives an idea about the book.
Permalink Send private email Senthilnathan N.S. 
April 1st, 2007 6:48pm
Life is about acceptance.  Once you get the hang of that, you can go where you want to go.  I can't explain why though.  MAybe that book will.
Permalink Send private email sharkfish 
April 1st, 2007 10:12pm

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