Joseph Dobbie = Sathy?
And SoP wonders why men are 'pigs'.
That doesn't sound particularly stalkeresque to me...
um. that's really weird and creepy to get an email like that from someone that you only met ONCE. I don't think I'd worry for my safety; he seems harmless enough, but I'd definitely not respond well either. He should have stopped at the second paragraph, where his better sense told him to stop.
Right, right... no denying that.
But I do believe that there are just as romantic women out there and he may have well believed in good faith that she was one of them and that they had hit it off.
I used to be a bit sappy, but it's been good and beaten out of me now. Part of that is just due less severe happenings than his misfortune. So I guess I identify with the guy a bit, and I feel sorry for him.
Ha ha! I used to write notes sorta like that to girls, back in 9th grade or so, before I had any sense.
Girls do NOT like those sorts of notes, and forwarding the note to everyone she knows, as she did in this story, is just what an emotionally immature 9th grade girl would do as well.
Guys - don't do this! You have to build up more slowly!
He should have asked for her number at the party. That's the standard approach.
As far as this 'stalker' nonsense, that's just BS, the girl knows he is not a stalker.
These kinds of notes are fine after a few dates where the couple is already beginning to be a couple. It's only bad when the guy (or the girl sometimes too, I guess), jumps the gun and fast forwards into Sappy Romantic Mode and freaks out the other person.
You've gotta have some idea of how your message will be received before sending it, or you're taking a big chance of turning off the other person completely.
Which is what he obviously did. The ensuing rejection, she takes no blame for. But passing it around to belittle the guy is just evil.
I don't think it means she's evil, but it was inconsiderate and tactless of her to do so. A nice girl would just not respond, or send an email back "Thanks so much for the sweet note. I'm not looking for someone, so we won't be meeting, but I wish you the best."