I think thats why my girls are so surprising.
babies _aren't_ like a blank slate. I was always told they were. babies are like an entire mountain range covered in crags, bushes and unexpected inhabitants that starts off underwater.
slowly, as they are given the tools to express themselves, the water recedes and the parents are left awestruck at this thing they entirely didn't create themselves at all.
this incredibly complicated thing that, from all appearances, leapt into existance in a single moment.
it turns out a baby is just an adult waiting to grow up.
that surprised me. it still surprises me.
Your girls' age is probably the one with the most surprises: when they suddenly develop enough verbal skills to express actual ideas and creativity rather than just responding to what's right in front of them.
It sounds like Ms. Thing 1 & 2 are very bright and should keep you on your toes for the next couple of decades.
I wish I'd written down some of the gems that my sons came up with when they were two and three.
July 19th, 2007 6:23am
Im told their language skills are very good for their age, but physically they are not that confident still.
we actually had a breakthrough today, they (both) climbed the 'stone mountain' down at the part today....went straight up over the ridges like little champs.
<g> I was watching a 17 month boy at the park and his mother enviously though, he was clambering up a 4ft ladder like whatsisface up everest....Thing 1 has only recently managed to conquer that particular ladder while Thing 2 wont even try..
meh, it all evens out over time anyway, apparently by the age of 5-7 most of those differences even themselves out.
Yes, they all end up roughly in the same place.
My older son didn't crawl until a year, didn't walk until 15 months, but rode a bicycle without training wheels before he was 4 1/2 (and promptly began playing "stunt man" by crashing it into fences, or stopping short and falling over on purpose. We went through a few worn out tires that year). On the other hand, he talked early and could identify most of the alphabet by age 2.
The younger one was crawling by 6 months, walked at a year, but hardly said a word until he was two, then suddenly began speaking in complete sentences. He took his time with the bicycle, not daring to take off the trainers until he was seven and his feet reached the ground.
It must be interesting to have two who are the same age, so you can see just how differently they grow up.
July 19th, 2007 6:56am
wSv, don't know if you're male or female, but having little kids, you realize that gender differences don't come from the Patriarchy.
In other words, boys and girls are very different...
July 19th, 2007 7:03am
"It must be interesting to have two who are the same age, so you can see just how differently they grow up."
its been truly incredible. I wasn't prepared for _how_ different they would be.
seriously, having non-identical twins really clinches the nature/nurture for me. its nature. all of it. nurture can affect the outward displays, but nature has decided what they like, what they eat, how they sleep (positions, hours), when they start speaking, how soon they can recognise colors, how they behave when they are sick, what colors they like and pretty much every facet of their instinctive behavior.
Thing 2 likes running up and down the hallway yelling 'nah nah nah'. Thing 1 doesn't usually even yell. Thing 2 devours honey, chocolate and pretty much everything you offer her, Thing 1 doesn't like chocolate or pretty much any sweet stuff (making her a real black sheep in the wSV clan, I can tell you) and, if shes busy or focused, just wont bother to eat.
I could go on and on, they are different in nearly every aspect.
Thing 2 is in the top 25% for height and weight (and has been since about 6 months or so), Thing 1 is in the bottom 25%.
Its ridiculous, but honestly, with the experience I have so far...its all nature. every bit of it. my girls have been different in every respect since birth.
Im looking forward to finding out in what ways Im wrong :)
Don't worry, if you don't figure out how you're wrong on your own, they will be sure to tell you. :-)
July 19th, 2007 7:27am
heh. if I get another chance Im just not gonna encourage 'em to speak. that was my first, and biggest, mistake.
Just wait until they're teenagers.
July 19th, 2007 7:36am
"if I get another chance Im just not gonna encourage 'em to speak. that was my first, and biggest, mistake."
You spend the first two years teaching them to walk and talk, and the following 18 begging them to sit down and shut up.
July 19th, 2007 7:47am
Did you intend "blank slate" or "pink slate"? Or was this a play on words?
July 19th, 2007 9:22am
"tabula rasa" is a great record.
July 19th, 2007 1:44pm