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Dinner party, does he stay or go

So there is a impromptu dinner party happening in the next couple of hours.  With about 15 people.

Now, I mentioned I don't like eating with people in an earlier thread so would this be an excellent time to break from my old conventions.

Sure, I have been on dates that I haven't mentioned recently (not really girlfriends, dont worry; but meetups at the bar so this is different).

Why I am debating this.  Hmm, Hmm.  here are the thoughts that are running through my head = "This is so stupid, don't these people have better things to do, god I hate that guy, I get off work at 6:30 I have to drive all the way out there, chick responded to me like I "have" to go"
Permalink Bot Berlin 
July 20th, 2007 4:10pm
Let me rephrase that.  Should I go to a dinner party without forcing myself to go to dinner party and actually try to have a good time, even if I get punched in the stomach.
Permalink Bot Berlin 
July 20th, 2007 4:19pm
wtf are you talking about?  go if you want, or if there is a real political or social reason to go (ie you don't want to hurt someone's feelings by not showing, or you told them you were coming and it would be shitty to not show up when someone already cooked for you).  otherwise don't go.  why is this hard?
Permalink the great purple 
July 20th, 2007 4:38pm
"wtf are you talking about?"

Huh, I don't know.  But shouldnt people normally take the oppurtunity to socialize and meet new people.  I dont know these people that well, yet I also feel like I should socialize more even when I dont have to.
Permalink Bot Berlin 
July 20th, 2007 4:40pm
You can always get plastered.
Permalink Michael B 
July 20th, 2007 4:48pm
(At the party, I mean.)
Permalink Michael B 
July 20th, 2007 4:49pm
"You can always get plastered."

I thought about that to.  that is what I always do.

I wish I knew more freaks (super geeks, drunks, druggies), that would make things easier.
Permalink Bot Berlin 
July 20th, 2007 4:50pm
"You can always get plastered."

It is in the suburbs too, the suburbs man.  Those places scare me.
Permalink Bot Berlin 
July 20th, 2007 4:51pm
Here's to the best words at the right place, at the perfect time
Here's to three hour dinners and long conversations
To the philosophical ramifications
of a beautiful day
To the twelve steppers at the thirteenth step
May they never forget the first step ....
Permalink Sekou Sundiata (Shout Out) 
July 20th, 2007 5:05pm
Please don't come. We don't need stick in the mud self important wet blankets like you.
Permalink Dinner Party 
July 20th, 2007 5:10pm
"Please don't come. We don't need stick in the mud self important wet blankets like you." -- sharkfish?
Permalink Bot Berlin 
July 20th, 2007 5:10pm
"But shouldnt people normally take the oppurtunity to socialize and meet new people"

only if you want to get to know them better.  if you're not genuinely interested don't bother.
Permalink the great purple 
July 20th, 2007 5:12pm
"only if you want to get to know them better.  if you're not genuinely interested don't bother"

You are ok, purple.  That was my thought.  But then again, if you think that way over the course of 5 years, you start to turn into kind of prude who spends his weekends playing xbox and writing code.
Permalink Bot Berlin 
July 20th, 2007 5:14pm
lalalallallalallaa, I am not normal, lalalallalallalaa, should I go, f**k, f**k, f**k.
Permalink Bot Berlin 
July 20th, 2007 5:16pm
you're so strange.

Sometimes I meet people, I like them, and then I want to spend time with them, get to know them better, make a human connection.  Then, when they invite me to dinner parties (or game nights or whatever) I go, assuming my schedule allows.

If people I don't like invite me, I don't go unless I have a political or social reason for doing so.

Your replies make it sound like you don't like people and don't ever want to get to know any of them better.
Permalink the great purple 
July 20th, 2007 5:19pm
"Your replies make it sound like you don't like people and don't ever want to get to know any of them better."

Yes that is it.  But, here would be an oppurtunity to change.  I might have to get a little sauced up first.

Watch that video (sfw), there is part where towelie smokes up and that gives him super-powers.  I need to do that before I go out (replace weed with drink).

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Svdoo7-DeqI
Permalink Bot Berlin 
July 20th, 2007 5:21pm
""Your replies make it sound like you don't like people and don't ever want to get to know any of them better." "

I wouldn't say I dont like people, not a serial killer person type.  Far from it, very passive and quiet.  Like solitude.

But I certainly don't like the social way of things in America and kind of uncomfortable with it.
Permalink Bot Berlin 
July 20th, 2007 5:30pm
Why is it America's fault that you're anti-social?
Permalink Michael B 
July 20th, 2007 5:47pm
"Why is it America's fault that you're anti-social?"

It isn't America's fault.  I am just not social like other American young (or not so young) adults are.  I wager a lot of you people aren't either (eg, you seem to spend a lot of your time here).

But of some of the other hardcore software developers (I know some jboss developers and guys that work on various popular opensource projects) I know, I am not the extreme case (trust me).
Permalink Bot Berlin 
July 20th, 2007 5:50pm
My excuse is that I'm at a desk all day at work.
Permalink Michael B 
July 20th, 2007 5:56pm
There is always some code I want tackle and by the time I want hang out, it is 3am.

eg. I want to write some Flex stuff (see my new post).
Permalink Bot Berlin 
July 20th, 2007 5:59pm
90% chance that it'll be the normal chit-chat ho-hum party.

But there's a 10% chance that it'll be unbelievably wild, with people drinking to excess & throwing up in the sink, folks dancing on the table, fist-fights, and possible throw-your-housekey-in-the-basket wife swapping.

Would you want to miss out on that?
Permalink Send private email xampl 
July 20th, 2007 6:42pm
"Would you want to miss out on that?"

30 minutes away and yea I will miss it.  I am working on this really cool app.  I got hooked into this code.


arrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrg
Permalink Bot Berlin 
July 20th, 2007 6:45pm
People talk about boring shit at dinner parties. Nothing interesting.  And if you try to make it interesting, you get frowned upon.
Permalink Send private email sharkfish 
July 20th, 2007 9:47pm
I have a hypothesis:  after work stuff is strictly for the powers-that-be to feel better about themselves.  And if the powers-that-be aren't there, the party isn't worth going to.
Permalink Send private email sharkfish 
July 20th, 2007 9:48pm
It wasnt a work related thing.  It was purely socially but people I kind of knew.  I didn't go but I have this real cool app I basically created today.  Source pending.

I made a choice.  hang out and sit in a chair and get fat and listen to droll conversation about nothing or write this code I am been wanting to write my entire life.

It isnt that exciting but it will help me a lot.  A http load tester that has support for ssl, session handling, html output and other easily configurable.
Permalink Bot Berlin 
July 20th, 2007 10:19pm
> to droll conversation

Yah, when you are around you just sort of suck all the energy out of everything. Perhaps if you were more interesting everyone might have more fun?
Permalink Dinner Party 
July 20th, 2007 11:33pm
I hate parties because every time the topic of sex comes up, someone titters nervously and changes the subject.
Permalink AMerrickanGirl 
July 21st, 2007 12:35am
"I hate parties because every time the topic of sex comes up, someone titters nervously and changes the subject."

You hate parties because you can't talk about sex?
Permalink lz 
July 21st, 2007 1:37pm
She must just go to the wrong parties :)
Permalink Send private email Colm 
July 21st, 2007 7:04pm
I'm definitely going to the wrong parties.
Permalink AMerrickanGirl 
July 22nd, 2007 10:54am

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