Dinner party, does he stay or go
So there is a impromptu dinner party happening in the next couple of hours. With about 15 people.
Now, I mentioned I don't like eating with people in an earlier thread so would this be an excellent time to break from my old conventions.
Sure, I have been on dates that I haven't mentioned recently (not really girlfriends, dont worry; but meetups at the bar so this is different).
Why I am debating this. Hmm, Hmm. here are the thoughts that are running through my head = "This is so stupid, don't these people have better things to do, god I hate that guy, I get off work at 6:30 I have to drive all the way out there, chick responded to me like I "have" to go"
Let me rephrase that. Should I go to a dinner party without forcing myself to go to dinner party and actually try to have a good time, even if I get punched in the stomach.
wtf are you talking about? go if you want, or if there is a real political or social reason to go (ie you don't want to hurt someone's feelings by not showing, or you told them you were coming and it would be shitty to not show up when someone already cooked for you). otherwise don't go. why is this hard?
the great purple
July 20th, 2007 4:38pm
"wtf are you talking about?"
Huh, I don't know. But shouldnt people normally take the oppurtunity to socialize and meet new people. I dont know these people that well, yet I also feel like I should socialize more even when I dont have to.
You can always get plastered.
July 20th, 2007 4:48pm
(At the party, I mean.)
July 20th, 2007 4:49pm
"You can always get plastered."
I thought about that to. that is what I always do.
I wish I knew more freaks (super geeks, drunks, druggies), that would make things easier.
"You can always get plastered."
It is in the suburbs too, the suburbs man. Those places scare me.
Here's to the best words at the right place, at the perfect time
Here's to three hour dinners and long conversations
To the philosophical ramifications
of a beautiful day
To the twelve steppers at the thirteenth step
May they never forget the first step ....
Please don't come. We don't need stick in the mud self important wet blankets like you.
July 20th, 2007 5:10pm
"Please don't come. We don't need stick in the mud self important wet blankets like you." -- sharkfish?
"But shouldnt people normally take the oppurtunity to socialize and meet new people"
only if you want to get to know them better. if you're not genuinely interested don't bother.
the great purple
July 20th, 2007 5:12pm
"only if you want to get to know them better. if you're not genuinely interested don't bother"
You are ok, purple. That was my thought. But then again, if you think that way over the course of 5 years, you start to turn into kind of prude who spends his weekends playing xbox and writing code.
lalalallallalallaa, I am not normal, lalalallalallalaa, should I go, f**k, f**k, f**k.
you're so strange.
Sometimes I meet people, I like them, and then I want to spend time with them, get to know them better, make a human connection. Then, when they invite me to dinner parties (or game nights or whatever) I go, assuming my schedule allows.
If people I don't like invite me, I don't go unless I have a political or social reason for doing so.
Your replies make it sound like you don't like people and don't ever want to get to know any of them better.
the great purple
July 20th, 2007 5:19pm
"Your replies make it sound like you don't like people and don't ever want to get to know any of them better."
Yes that is it. But, here would be an oppurtunity to change. I might have to get a little sauced up first.
Watch that video (sfw), there is part where towelie smokes up and that gives him super-powers. I need to do that before I go out (replace weed with drink).
""Your replies make it sound like you don't like people and don't ever want to get to know any of them better." "
I wouldn't say I dont like people, not a serial killer person type. Far from it, very passive and quiet. Like solitude.
But I certainly don't like the social way of things in America and kind of uncomfortable with it.
Why is it America's fault that you're anti-social?
July 20th, 2007 5:47pm
"Why is it America's fault that you're anti-social?"
It isn't America's fault. I am just not social like other American young (or not so young) adults are. I wager a lot of you people aren't either (eg, you seem to spend a lot of your time here).
But of some of the other hardcore software developers (I know some jboss developers and guys that work on various popular opensource projects) I know, I am not the extreme case (trust me).
My excuse is that I'm at a desk all day at work.
July 20th, 2007 5:56pm
There is always some code I want tackle and by the time I want hang out, it is 3am.
eg. I want to write some Flex stuff (see my new post).
90% chance that it'll be the normal chit-chat ho-hum party.
But there's a 10% chance that it'll be unbelievably wild, with people drinking to excess & throwing up in the sink, folks dancing on the table, fist-fights, and possible throw-your-housekey-in-the-basket wife swapping.
Would you want to miss out on that?
July 20th, 2007 6:42pm
"Would you want to miss out on that?"
30 minutes away and yea I will miss it. I am working on this really cool app. I got hooked into this code.
People talk about boring shit at dinner parties. Nothing interesting. And if you try to make it interesting, you get frowned upon.
I have a hypothesis: after work stuff is strictly for the powers-that-be to feel better about themselves. And if the powers-that-be aren't there, the party isn't worth going to.
It wasnt a work related thing. It was purely socially but people I kind of knew. I didn't go but I have this real cool app I basically created today. Source pending.
I made a choice. hang out and sit in a chair and get fat and listen to droll conversation about nothing or write this code I am been wanting to write my entire life.
It isnt that exciting but it will help me a lot. A http load tester that has support for ssl, session handling, html output and other easily configurable.
> to droll conversation
Yah, when you are around you just sort of suck all the energy out of everything. Perhaps if you were more interesting everyone might have more fun?
July 20th, 2007 11:33pm
I hate parties because every time the topic of sex comes up, someone titters nervously and changes the subject.
July 21st, 2007 12:35am
"I hate parties because every time the topic of sex comes up, someone titters nervously and changes the subject."
You hate parties because you can't talk about sex?
July 21st, 2007 1:37pm
She must just go to the wrong parties :)
July 21st, 2007 7:04pm
I'm definitely going to the wrong parties.
July 22nd, 2007 10:54am