is trying to sweet talk his girlfriend into not being angry with him.  This has gone on for fifteen minutes "Calm down honey, this all started because you were angry about something I know not what from the get-go.  I don't know why the spilled water tripped this episode I'm not going anywhere til you open the door!"  Doors slammed, things banging.  Bigger man from another unit tries to calm him down.

Oy.  Walk away, dude.  Looking like a fool is not cool.


On the other hand, I'm also guilty of such so lemme not pass judgement.

"Christine!!! I don't know what I did.  Would you just open the door and TELL ME!???!!!!"

Okay.  So if he doesn't know what he did, that's making her MORE pissed off.  He is supposed to know.

Women who play that "you should know what you did" card should be condemned to being single forever.

Just tell the poor guy, for god's sake.  Tell him why you're upset and let him deal with it.  Love is not an ESP test.

I agree.

In this case, it started out with loud banging on the door, loud enough to alarm me and make me want to call the police. 

So in this case, he could be just shouting so the neighbors can believe she is the crazy one since he "didn't do anything."

I've had controlling boyfriends, so I am aware of this tactic.

Nine times out of ten with drama queens the "You know what you did and I want you to say what it was" game is a fishing expedition. She'll get him to admit several things until the guy runs out of confessions, then she'll 'admit' that it was the last one mentioned, then she'll have the upper hand in the relationship because now he has to make amends to her.

It's called disturbing the peace and if it goes on too long (you decide) call the cops.

But if he's locked out of the house maybe stick your head out the window and tell him (loudly) to STFU and go call her up by phone.

If he's inside there's not much to do unless there's screaming (call the cops) or if you know their phone number (call them).

So - really just outside your window?

And you didn't blithely toss a bucket of water out then act shocked someone was standing there because...?

I was totally entertained. 

I recall walking out of the house this morning on my way to work and I saw this skinny, crazy looking chick in the vestibule.  That was "the girl" in the equation.

So now I'm imagining her completely cracked and emotional, with this complete nutter standing outside whining trying to make sure he maintains his hoochie contract with her.

Your neighborhood sounds like a lot of fun.

Yeah. Crazy ass white people LOL.

But seriously.  I'm in a working class area of cabbies, retail and corporate lackey people, and somehow there are these $300,000 condos with Baby Boomers who do nothing but bitch about property tax and walk their dogs co-existing with us.

Not surprising, but I often wonder how long before the quaintness of being around "us" will last and when they will finally decide to remove ALL rental housing and condo everything.

> Calm down honey

Like that works. You might as well pour gasoline on her fire.

I think we've been here before on this. Unless there is local zoning forbidding rental then you'll have rental everywhere - at a price. As dismal dinkys move in to 'fun' neighborhoods possibly chasing lifestyle (but more likely just taking up what they discern as cheap) the fringe freaks and artists piss off somewhere cheaper as rents go up.

This can be distorted by proximity to unique resources such as a beach, univerity or public transport.

"Nine times out of ten with drama queens the "You know what you did and I want you to say what it was" game is a fishing expedition. "

meh, can easily work the other way as well.  the guy sure as hell isn't going to admit to _anything_ until he is damn sure which specific thing she knows about.

actually ime the guy is usually just blowing smoke up her ass in that situation.  9 times out of 10 he knows bloody well what she is pissed at...but by refusing to admit the fact he is either hoping to convince her that he didn't realise whatever it was would annoy her like this, that he didn't mean it in the way she is taking it and is shocked, SHOCKED that she could possibly think he did, or...as I said above...isn't dumb enough to admit to anything until he is pretty sure about what she actually knows.

At this point I wish I had shouted out my window:

"Hey, you know we know you know what you did.  Just admit it you stupid fuck and let us get some peace and quiet!"

I still like the bucket of water approach.  That's really a beautiful suggestion.  Or toss the contents of the catbox.

when it rains, it pours...

"Crazy ass white people"

Sounds like a TV sitcom.

Or some kinda club.