I'm not dead...yet.

"doing the decade:" what would YOU do?

During a previous job, we had a young (17-18) female temporary worker at the front desk. For background, I was 29 at the time, now I'm 31. We would often take our lunch break together and I would give her a ride to night school. Once in a while I'd run into her and her girlfriends in the clubbing/pubbing section of town,and they'd be totally drunk, and her friends would be drunkenly saying "oh my GOD! its YOU!! girlxxx is in LOVE with you?" I would just sort of grin and say hi, how are you doing.

It was always a bit awkward seeing her at work the next week after these episodes. I kind of could sense that she really was in love with me, or else really in LUST with me. I never did anything about this, because she was a fellow employee, and besides she was way too young... (perhaps illegal?)

Now I switched jobs. Hadn't seen the girl for about 3 months. Started receiving emails. Gave girl my phone number. I guess she's 19, and... really IS in love with me. For what reason, I don't know. But... should I care?

Anyway, it seems like a good bet to me, but I'm just wondering if me being 31 and she being 19 is too much of an age difference? I mentioned it to my sister (28) and she thinks I'm "gross." My guy friends however have a "DUUUUDE! SWEET!" response.

Anyway, I know what I'm going to do already. But wanted to see what other people thought. Has anyone ever had a relationship like this work out? Any tips? The only rule I'm following right now is "it is probably not going to work out, but just try to leave her in a good state when it ends."

This is probably the saddest place ever to post relationship queries, but i do read the articles, and thought maybe something other than the normal anal fissure, iraq sucks, i have a booger in my nose fare might be a nice change of pace.
August 17th, 2005
Permalink Your friend 
August 17th, 2005
"Once in a while I'd run into her and her girlfriends in the clubbing/pubbing section of town"

Have her bring a girlfriend. [grin]

Permalink Philo 
August 17th, 2005
I don't see what the problem is as long as she's legal. Sounds like you both like clubbing and pubbing so there you have a date activity.
Permalink Rich Rogers 
August 17th, 2005
Ask Rupert Murdoch if he has a problem with a wife half his age. He's 72.

No worries, mate.
Permalink trollop 
August 17th, 2005
She's going to seem really immature at times, which may make you feel really old around her.

But hey, why not try?
Permalink Yoey 
August 17th, 2005
Don't do it, if you plan on it being long and meaningful. It's not a matter of the age difference, its a matter of HER age. She's still a child in a womans body.

Unless of course you are still a child, in which case, you're PERFECT for each other.
Permalink Anon 
August 17th, 2005
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