Y'all are a bunch of wankers!

don't be a stashin

Stashing is a new fad word to describe the relationship practice of not posting about your new relationship on social media.

If your new boyfriend says he doesn't do facebook, or he does and you don't see posts every day there about how great he thinks you are, then you've been "stashed".

Ladies, don't allow yourselves to be stashed. Only date men who use Facebook each day to post about how much they adore everything about you.

https://nypost.com/2018/06/07/stashing-is-the-latest-disturbing-dating-trend/
Permalink Reality Check 
June 10th, 2018 1:52am
We have yet to see the full fallout from the #metoo movement.

But it's not going to be good for women.

Men wherever possible are going to stop:

Being alone in any way with non-partner women
Recruiting women
Promoting women
Mentoring women
Explaining things to women
Telling jokes to women
Working with women
Marrying women
Showing the slightest commitment to women
Spending any money on women
Permalink Grumpy Old Git 
June 10th, 2018 2:05am
MGTOWFTW
Permalink ,ndo 
June 10th, 2018 2:19am
Isn't this also about Facebook becoming the one universal single proxy for all human relationships? Fuck Zuck, fuck Facebook.
Permalink Bored Bystander 
June 10th, 2018 2:24am
I don't use Facebook, haven't used Facebook, won't use Facebook. It's toxic to privacy and mental health both. Facebook is for the mentally ill, the pathetic, the attention seekers, the desperate.

People don't believe I don't have a Facebook id. They think I am rejecting them or hiding something by refusing to "give them my facebook" (btw, learn grammar, fb people).

So this article is more along those lines - don't trust a man who won't fb you DAILY. WTF.

Fortunately there are hot women from other countries and cultures in europe and latin america who don't Facebook and prefer to meet guys face to face and are disappointed that so many american beta cuck sjw males spent all their time on social media like the weak wristed limp dicks they are. So there's no competition for old and ugly but fit and rich guys like me that are willing to wink at hot chicks and say "How ya doin?"
Permalink Reality Check 
June 10th, 2018 3:01am
Anyone notice another related trend, but with HR?

Some companies now demand you turn over your social media ids and nicks to them as part of the hiring process background vetting.

I don't even know what nicks I've used on various boards where I've made one-off comments and never returned. Second, no way in hell am I disclosing that I am Reality Check here. Third, the only ones they really want are YouTube, Instagram, and Facebook, and I don't use those. Presumably if you list a Myspace ID, they throw your resume away instantly since they know you're over 40. For programmers they want to see a github account and hn nick and Stackoverflow id. I had an hn nick a while ago but haven't posted there in years since that stupid dang moderator shat on everything. I don't remember the password anymore.

As a result, I have no social media to disclose. This is a "no hire" and it is annoying because it comes AFTER the job offer is accepted. Fuck these companies. If social media disclosure is a requirement, it should be listed in the job ad.

People tell me "just make some fake accounts and give those". Nope, accounts with no posts are obvious fake accounts and I don't want to spend time populating social media with fake happy posts, that is my idea of hell.
Permalink Reality Check 
June 10th, 2018 3:10am
Anyway I feel that it's trivial to verify that I don't have or do Facebook. If a friend hangs out with me for a day or we go on a trip, check it out. I'm not on the fucking phone 24/7 pushing buttons on fucking facebook like some loser while ignoring the campground, museum, dinner, or whatever is happening around me. Instead I'm engaging with my surroundings and companions.

I fucking hate it when I get together with someone to do something and they are on their phone all the time reading the lastest facebook posts from their friends. I've gotten up and walked away from tables when people pull that shit. Fuck them.
Permalink Reality Check 
June 10th, 2018 3:15am
"Men wherever possible are going to stop: Being alone in any way with non-partner women"

A couple years ago I went out with this woman who said, "Is it OK if I bring a chaperone? You can never be too careful." I said sure, that's fine. It was sort of implied that I'd be paying for the chaperone's entertainment and meal as well. No problem. Probably a scam, but I'll go along.

So I show up and there she is with her chaperone that is some friend of hers along for a free meal. Cool.

I introduce them to MY chaperone that I brought as well, a female friend who is a MMA fighter and incredibly fit. I said, "You can never be too careful!"

The date was really pissed off about my move here and the date went badly and there wasn't a second one. However, the two chaperones, amused by the situation, hit it off and are still friends.

"Men wherever possible are going to stop: Being alone in any way with non-partner women"

RULE #1: ALWAYS BRING A CHAPERONE
Permalink Reality Check 
June 10th, 2018 3:21am
>  Presumably if you list a Myspace ID, they throw your resume away instantly since they know you're over 40.

WTF. Facebook by far is the home of the most desperate-to-be-cool 50 and 60 year olds.

I do keep a Facebook account. I made the mistake a few years ago of getting too invested in some groups on there. I therefore nuked those relationships and the friend connections with all of the idiots acting like 14 year old teenage girls who friended me during that period. Now, FB's merely my portal to connect to normie family and community members. Once in a while I'll like some Pepe meme page but otherwise my activity is quite bland.
Permalink Bored Bystander 
June 10th, 2018 3:22am
"Facebook by far is the home of the most desperate-to-be-cool 50 and 60 year olds."

LOL. That proves how out of touch I am. I thought FB was for the cool kids. So it's for pathetic old farts now? Like the guys writing the anti-stashing article!

So, cool kids are on instagram.

Don't say they are doing cool stuff and don't do social since I see them zombieing around with their phones.
Permalink Reality Check 
June 10th, 2018 3:43am
So, cool kids are on Instagram?

Sorry, meant to ask as question.
Permalink Reality Check 
June 10th, 2018 3:44am
I went to a family reunion last month. Distant family, not close, the closest relative there was a third cousin.

Anyway was going around talking to people to find out what they were up to. Everyone was kind of a zombie and didn't talk like normal people do.

At some point someone expressed surprise that I didn't know he was a truck driver. He said he posts about it on FB and "I guess we all keep in touch over the family facebook group". I told him I didn't do FB. There was some expression of concern then that maybe I was too poor to afford a phone, followed by confusion.

I swear to absolute god that the conversation was almost identical to those in Idiocracy where people simply can NOT comprehend what Joe is talking about.

Everyone seemed depressed too.

You know how you talk to someone and it goes:

Hey what you been up to.
Oh this and that.
How about you?
Oh I been doing these things.
Cool.

That DID not happen at all at anytime during this reunion, except with ONE person there who I'd talked to before and we had a normal conversation.

Everyone else had become totally socially retarded brain deads. I think because they have actually brain damaged themselves through FB use.
Permalink Reality Check 
June 10th, 2018 3:49am
BTW, are you up early or late?

Me, I went to sleep at 9 or 10pm last night and woke up I guess a couple hours ago and couldn't fall back asleep.

Anyway, I wish there was a place I could talk tech stuff, something like the old JoS forum. When I try here people just come in and shit on it, or it lays there like a dead fish.
Permalink Reality Check 
June 10th, 2018 4:00am
I'll have more time after exams. At the moment, you can tell when I'm procrastinating.
Permalink ,ndo 
June 10th, 2018 4:23am
> Everyone else had become totally socially retarded brain deads. I think because they have actually brain damaged themselves through FB use.

You're describing the social effects. Those catching up small talk conversations don't happen now because for most people they don't *have* to happen. IMO Facebook has become a replacement for normal chit-chat, letters and phone calls, and hyper-connects everyone in a clique like a family.

FB kind of does to interpersonal relationships in a group like an extended family what social media does in general across society for breaking news. Everyone is already instantly kind of up to date on stuff going on. So when they get together IRL there's almost nothing to talk about and everyone assumes that everyone else already has the same information.

We're becoming more like the Binars in Star Trek TNG than true  retards.

And I was up late, not early. I need to stop doing that.

> Anyway, I wish there was a place I could talk tech stuff, something like the old JoS forum. When I try here people just come in and shit on it, or it lays there like a dead fish.

Yeah, tell me about it. In general nobody wants to have conversations anymore. My own forum used to be fairly popular and it's become a wasteland. I think techies are the most severe in that progression of "discussion is stupid, I just want my specific questions answered and then I'm off of here."
Permalink Bored Bystander 
June 10th, 2018 10:36am
> You're describing the social effects. Those catching up small talk conversations don't happen now because for most people they don't *have* to happen. IMO Facebook has become a replacement for normal chit-chat, letters and phone calls, and hyper-connects everyone in a clique like a family.

OK, I do understand that. Instead of normal conversation they post into the void about their latest big poop or greasy lunch and assume that everyone following them reads it compulsively with interest, probably because everyone following them really does read that inanity. There's little follow up questions that show interest rather than "thumbs up"/+1/likes (or whatever FB uses) and "Sally shared this post" feedback. You don't get any "Oh I ate there last month, they have good pickles." sort of conversation. It's just random shit spew from the detritus of quiet desperation.

The thing is because they no longer do small talk and catching up, they no longer appear to actually know how to have a conversation at all. That skill has been lost. They just mumble and look confused when you ask follow up questions. And they don't know how to summarize, but instead spew trivia of recent events assuming you know the context from their digital feed. They mumble, speak in sentence fragments, and literally sound retarded.

I see a devolution. Soon humans will not even have vocal cords, atrophied from years of neglect. But perhaps a special organ that can say "Riiiiiii!"

> FB kind of does to interpersonal relationships in a group like an extended family what social media does in general across society for breaking news. Everyone is already instantly kind of up to date on stuff going on. So when they get together IRL there's almost nothing to talk about and everyone assumes that everyone else already has the same information.

I think it's like that but ALSO they have lost the ability to actually communicate or to comprehend human speech.

> We're becoming more like the Binars in Star Trek TNG than true  retards.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/11001001

Hadn't seen that one. Not sure the relevance, I'll try to track it down, thanks.

> Yeah, tell me about it. In general nobody wants to have conversations anymore.

Ah ha!

> My own forum used to be fairly popular and it's become a wasteland. I think techies are the most severe in that progression of "discussion is stupid, I just want my specific questions answered and then I'm off of here."

Well, I was hoping to show you how to write recursive SQL so I'd have someone to talk to about it. I've tried talking to people at work about it and they find SQL too boring, which I think means they don't know SQL and don't care. I get it and can relate. I cringe when the Haskell fanboy comes up to me at work to tell me about some aspect of Haskell as I just don't have time or interest to get up to speed in Haskell as I don't see it as a useful production language. SQL though I'm using though it's by no means my primary or even a major thing I do.
Permalink Reality Check 
June 10th, 2018 10:55am
Jordan Peterson has a bunch of videos where he is sitting in a room in his house or somewhere with some other intellectual guy and they are having a conversation about some weird thing. It's amazing because one guy will mention the most obscure thing and the other one will say "Oh yes, so and so's paper mentioned that blah blah." and the first guy goes, "Right, exactly, and not only that" and they go back and forth, both completely understanding the other and enjoying the conversation.

Would be cool to have people like that living nearby.
Permalink Reality Check 
June 10th, 2018 10:57am
> But perhaps a special organ that can say "Riiiiiii!"

CNN will 24 hours have two people left and right and in the center a picture of an orange cheese puff. The left CNNer will say "Riiiiiii!" through their Ri Apparatus and then the right CNNer will say "Riiiiiii!" through their Ri Apparatus and then the left CNNer will say "Riiiiiii!" through their Ri Apparatus and then the right CNNer will say "Riiiiiii!" through their Ri Apparatus and then the left CNNer will say "Riiiiiii!" through their Ri Apparatus and then the right CNNer will say "Riiiiiii!" through their Ri Apparatus and then the left CNNer will say "Riiiiiii!" through their Ri Apparatus and then the right CNNer will say "Riiiiiii!" through their Ri Apparatus and then the left CNNer will say "Riiiiiii!" through their Ri Apparatus and then the right CNNer will say "Riiiiiii!" through their Ri Apparatus and that will be the news and it won't be any different at all than CNN right now.
Permalink Reality Check 
June 10th, 2018 11:00am
Richard Feynman made similar comments about top level physicists, the key is egoless listening.
Permalink Scott Adams 
June 10th, 2018 11:01am
> Would be cool to have people like that living nearby.

Yes
Permalink Spam king 
June 10th, 2018 11:10am
> > Would be cool to have people like that living nearby.

I think the last time I had a conversation like that was at work, 30+ years ago, and it was at a conventional old-school big company that hired college graduates. And the people I'd talk with like that had degrees and had been around a bit and weren't terribly provincial or defensive about their mental capabilities.  And high school and a few times college was exactly like that.

I think there's an awful lot that goes into a good conversation. My big mistake when I was young was thinking that this was a common thing and that I'd always be able to have such conversations.

Both parties have to be capable of one, and interested in it, and able to contribute, and also capable of asking good (or ANY) questions. This is all REALLY fucking rare.

It was rare before the internet and before I got so old that my age group became retarded and defensive. Today I bet it's almost impossible to find unless you're, say, a SJW at a very liberal school and you bond with a hive member.

What I find in real life today is that when I run into someone even remotely capable of a good conversation, they detect it and they shut down. No time. Or they become like a car stuck in snow and won't contribute.

I've even gotten frustrated sometimes and said to someone "will you ask a Goddamned question once in a while?" Of course the convo is toast at that point.

College educated professional individuals today communicate through a series of grunts, groans, clicks and whistles.
Permalink Bored Bystander 
June 10th, 2018 11:34am
> https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/11001001

> Hadn't seen that one. Not sure the relevance, I'll try to track it down, thanks.

The Binars were twerpy little dwarf aliens who didn't talk. They communicated at high speed telepathically using bit streams. Of course, the plot gimmick with them was that they were isolated socially and could only communicate like walking modems with each other, and not with any other species.
Permalink Bored Bystander 
June 10th, 2018 12:07pm

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